
Different Children, Different Responses
In classrooms around the world, we see young children cope with separation in various ways. Some clutch comfort toys tightly. Others become social butterflies, seeking connection with peers. Some withdraw quietly, looking a bit lost in the shuffle. But here's what we've consistently observed: children who reach out to connect with their teacher tend to adjust more smoothly.
This isn't coincidence—it's attachment science in action.
The Question Every Child Asks
When you're not there, your child's nervous system is quietly asking: "Who's got me, and who gets me?" This isn't just about supervision or safety rules. It's about emotional connection and felt security.
Many children's books focus on reassuring kids about their parents' love and eventual return, or they teach strategies for managing big feelings. While these approaches have value, they often miss something crucial: your child's natural need for a trusted caregiver figure during your absence.
Teachers as Attachment Figures
This is why the teacher-child relationship matters so much. When educators understand their role as temporary attachment figures—not replacing you, but providing security in your absence—children can settle more easily into learning and play.

The magic happens through consistent daily rituals. Simple moments of connection at drop-off and pick-up help children feel seen and secure. Our children’s book, Someone to Be With, offers a predictable routine that answers that pressing question for the child when their parent is away, “When you’re not here, who will watch over me and keep me safe?”
Building the Bridge
Creating this sense of safety requires partnership between home and school. When parents, children, and teachers all understand the importance of these connecting moments, transitions become less about managing anxiety and more about building trust.
Your child doesn't need to choose between loving you and feeling safe with their teacher. In fact, when children experience security with their educator, it often strengthens their confidence in all relationships.
As you prepare for this school year, remember that back-to-school anxiety often signals your child's healthy attachment to you. The goal isn't to eliminate those feelings, but to help your child discover they can feel connected and secure even when you're apart.
Learn more about Someone to Be With and other Circle of Security books here.