Shark Music and the Space Between: From Unconscious Fear to Conscious Choice
Shark Music and the Space Between: From Unconscious Fear to Conscious Choice
Every person carries background “noise” shaped long before becoming a caregiver—often outside awareness, yet influencing present-moment interactions. In Circle of Security, we call this Shark Music: unconscious fear rooted in early attachment experiences.
Join Deidre Quinlan, experienced clinician and COSI Leadership Team, as she shares with us how to apply the relational framework RAR—Relationship, Affect, and Reflection—to create a holding environment where caregivers feel safe enough, even in discomfort, to stay, look, and begin to wonder if something different is possible.
The timing of this workshop will work best for those in Region B, C and D time zones, but everyone is welcome. If this date/time doesn't work for you, more workshops dates and times will be announced soon. This workshop will be recorded for internal COSI purposes only, and will not be available to review.
Full attendance is required to earn CEUs.
13 May, 2026, 3:00pm Pacific Daylight Time, US
13 May, 2026, 10:00pm, Greenwich Mean Time, UK
14 May, 2026, 8:00am, Australian Eastern Standard Time, AU
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Every person carries background “noise” shaped long before becoming a caregiver—often outside awareness, yet influencing present-moment interactions. In Circle of Security, we call this Shark Music: unconscious fear rooted in early attachment experiences.
As COS professionals, the goal is not to silence the music, but to skillfully be with caregivers as they begin to hear it—creating a felt sense of safety that opens space for choice. In this relational context, reflection can emerge. Reflection, grounded in a trusted relationship, becomes the pathway to new learning. Over time, new ways of relating become imaginable, practiced, and integrated into new internal working models.
In this 60-minute workshop, we will learn how to apply the relational framework RAR—Relationship, Affect, and Reflection—to create a holding environment where caregivers feel safe enough, even in discomfort, to stay, look, and begin to wonder if something different is possible.
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COSP Facilitator Training and/or COSC Coach Training
- Mental Health Providers (Psychology, Social Work, Marriage and Family Therapists, etc)
- Family Support Workers (Parenting Education, Outreach Workers, Foster Care Support, etc)
- Healthcare Providers (Pediatricians, Nurses, Doulas, OTs, PTs, etc)
- Early Care and Learning Professionals
- Understand how staying present with caregiver’s Shark Music, rather than distracting away from it, creates the conditions for new learning
- Recognize how Being With a facilitator offers a lived experience of feeling safe enough to explore and opens up new possibilities of ways for a caregiver to Be With their child
- Strengthen your practice by learning steps to create a relational container from which reflection becomes possible
COS Workshops create live, learning experiences for professionals utilizing the COS framework with caregivers to deepen understanding of attachment theory and practice.
Benefits for Professionals:
- Access to a live trainer
- Reflective discussion with a cohort of COS-trained professionals around the globe
- Greater confidence in applying the Circle
- Increased understanding of Circle concepts
- Stronger foundation to enhance caregiver-child relationship quality
CEUs to maintain licenses, certifications, and update skills
- 60-min of learning with live trainer (synchronous).
- This is a live event only, no recording will be available.
- Continuing Education Credit (.1 IACET CEUs/1 contact hour)
