The Path to Secure Hands Learning Series

A Focus on Process Fidelity


f you've attended the COSP facilitator training, you were offered an introduction to Circle of Security Parenting (COSP) and also provided training on how to follow this manualized video based program. Knowing how to use both the facilitator manual and the video together ensures fidelity to the content delivery of the program. But as a facilitator, it's necessary to adhere to fidelity in both content and process. In this training series, we'll focus on process fidelity by following the Path to Secure Hands.

diagram of the path to secure hands

We use this handout, The Facilitator's Path to Secure Hands, to represent the model of change used by facilitators. Facilitators find they're better able to provide secure Hands to caregivers when they follow the path. The three courses below follow the Path to Secure Hands starting with part one - The BSWK Facilitator.

The Bigger, Stronger, Wiser, Kind Facilitator (Part 1)

This online training is available for Registered COSP Facilitators. Facilitators interested in learning more about what it means to be a Bigger, Stronger, Wiser, Kind Facilitator will gain insight into ways to build on their own relationship capacities and facilitation skills including taking charge, following the need, attunement, Being With, parallel process, rupture and repair, etc. Watch video of facilitators reflecting with caregivers and learn from their strengths and struggles. Engage in learning exercises to explore relationship struggles. Reflect with other facilitators as they share their lessons from the field. Benefit from new learning activities and handouts that promote reflection specific to facilitators on the Path to Secure Hands.

A prerequisite to this course is participation in a minimum of two rounds of COSP facilitation. Examples of participation include facilitating COSP with caregivers, completing COSP as a caregiver, and/or helping other facilitators deliver the 8-chapter program. Your learning in the BSWK Facilitator course will be enriched if you bring your own experience with facilitation, since much of this course invites reflections on your previous work with caregivers to deepen the learning.

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Dates:Start: Any time
End: 60 days after start date

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Shark Music & The Core Sensitivities (Part 2)

Facilitators were first introduced to Shark Music in the COSP Facilitator training. This second course on the Path to Secure Hands offers a deeper understanding of Shark Music, by giving facilitators a window into the underlying themes we all hold and our predictable reactions that live in procedural memory. These specific themes are what we call Core Sensitivities in the Circle of Security approach.

Core Sensitivities give a systematic understanding of our pervasive and often hidden struggles, and offer a coherent road map that can help bring clarity to these specific and predictable reactions that show up when we listen to our Shark Music rather than responding accurately to the present moment. Understanding our repetitive patterns gives us, and the caregivers we work with, the opportunity to change. This has the potential to improve outcomes for caregivers as well as our own personal relationships.

The Reflective Facilitator (Part 3)

In COSP, reflection is the key. In this third course on the Path to Secure Hands facilitators take a closer look at ways to use reflective dialogue to invite caregivers to explore the Circle of Security, to engage in focused observation, to practice seeing and guessing skills, and to begin to understand what is real and what is Shark Music.

Reflection is a skill, and a primary role of a COSP Facilitator is to provide a reflective stance with caregivers. When caregivers are supported by facilitators to put together their own thoughts and feelings into a narrative to share, it helps build coherence, and consequently, opportunities to reflect at a deeper level. For facilitators who want to improve their capacity to support reflective functioning in caregivers, we have available opportunities to the Fidelity Journal, Fidelity Coaching, and this course, The Reflective Facilitator.