: Parenting


Remember The Tenderness

June 15th 2017

Tenderness may be one of the most powerful connecting opportunities we have. It also can be one of the most overlooked. Children (and teens... and parents.... and friends.... and partners...) need moments of tenderness. 

Attachment and Brain Development: Middle Prefrontal Cortex

June 8th 2017

Over the past 10-15 years, the research of brain development and the research of attachment have had some interesting intersections. One of these intersections has to do with a part of the brain called the middle prefrontal cortex. For parents who struggle with certain decisions their children make, learning about this part of the brain could offer some support. 

The Benefits of Secure Attachment

June 2nd 2017

Sometimes, under the stress of life, we forget to match our moment-to-moment parenting decisions to the big picture of our children's long term needs. We get impatient when our children need patience the most. We get loud, overwhelmed and frustrated when our children need a kind, in- charge parent. We get so lost that we tune out the needs of our children when they need engagement and commitment the most. Sometimes, we expect them to succeed in life even when we aren’t giving them the tools to succeed. 

"Daddy! Daddy! John!"

May 22nd 2017

Everyone knows the old saying, “actions speak louder than words”. We tell our children that we love them, but do our actions show it as well?


Can Less-Than-Perfect Really Be Enough?

April 3rd 2017

One definition of “perfect” is  to make something completely free from faults or defects, or as close to such a condition as possible. In relationships, it seems like this definition could provide the key to success. If you can make sure there aren’t any problems or arguments, then the relationship will be solid. If you don’t make any mistakes as a parent, your child will respect you and turn out okay. Whew. What a relief. 


Except, of course, none of us are perfect. 

If you have met one person with autism...

September 21st 2016

Katie Jessop, MA, a LMHC and Registered Circle of Security Parenting Facilitator in Spokane, WA, shares her professional and personal insight into autism and its complexities in our latest blog post:

Hidden in Plain Sight

August 24th 2016

The Circle of Security® is about switching the focus of our attention away from the behavior and onto the relationship needs that are always there, Hidden in Plain Sight.

Finding our Way out of Mean, Weak, and Gone

June 17th 2016

Let's face it. Sometimes being a parent is just plain hard.

A Mom Discovers How to Help Her Struggling Teen

March 17th 2016

Can changes in how a parent responds change the way a teen behaves? See what this mom discovers after participating in COS-P.

The Thirteenth Flaw of Parenting

January 19th 2016

This much we know: We all struggle as parents. All of us. No one is perfect. Indeed, any attempt to be perfect is by its very nature a sign of imperfection. (An excerpt from an upcoming book by Hoffman, Cooper, and Powell: Raising a Secure Child – Guilford Press. Expected publication February. 2017)