"Daddy! Daddy! John!"

May 22nd 2017

Everyone knows the old saying, “actions speak louder than words”. We tell our children that we love them, but do our actions show it as well?


Will My Child Become A Cry Baby?

May 11th 2017

In some cultures, there is a message that our children will become “cry babies” if we let them express their emotions. Nothing could be further from the truth. 

Why Are You Doing This?

April 24th 2017

It can be hard to figure out what our children need from us, especially when we are feeling some type of pressure. Taking a step back to breathe and observe can change the course. 

When A Child Won't Listen

April 17th 2017

Sometimes parents have a difficult time setting limits and have to rely on too many tricks to get their kids to listen.  Making decisions with COS in mind can help parents stay connected and in charge. 

Parent's Instincts vs. Expert Advice

April 10th 2017

Parents are often inundated with advice from professionals on the best ways to raise healthy children. Should parents follow the expert's advice or listen to their own instincts?

Can Less-Than-Perfect Really Be Enough?

April 3rd 2017

One definition of “perfect” is  to make something completely free from faults or defects, or as close to such a condition as possible. In relationships, it seems like this definition could provide the key to success. If you can make sure there aren’t any problems or arguments, then the relationship will be solid. If you don’t make any mistakes as a parent, your child will respect you and turn out okay. Whew. What a relief. 


Except, of course, none of us are perfect. 

Shark Music Behind Closed Doors

February 21st 2017

During a COS-P group, a young mother shared a story about her struggle to make sense of what was real danger and what was her own Shark Music.

If you have met one person with autism...

September 21st 2016

Katie Jessop, MA, a LMHC and Registered Circle of Security Parenting Facilitator in Spokane, WA, shares her professional and personal insight into autism and its complexities in our latest blog post:

Hidden in Plain Sight

August 24th 2016

The Circle of Security® is about switching the focus of our attention away from the behavior and onto the relationship needs that are always there, Hidden in Plain Sight.

It's Never Too Late

July 7th 2016
The needs on the Circle of Security are like the foundation of a home. What comes first builds the foundation for all that comes later in life.

Finding our Way out of Mean, Weak, and Gone

June 17th 2016

Let's face it. Sometimes being a parent is just plain hard.

The Balance of Being-With

April 15th 2016

Being-With is, in many ways, at the heartbeat of our Circle of Security approach.

A Mom Discovers How to Help Her Struggling Teen

March 17th 2016

Can changes in how a parent responds change the way a teen behaves? See what this mom discovers after participating in COS-P.

The Thirteenth Flaw of Parenting

January 19th 2016

This much we know: We all struggle as parents. All of us. No one is perfect. Indeed, any attempt to be perfect is by its very nature a sign of imperfection. (An excerpt from an upcoming book by Hoffman, Cooper, and Powell: Raising a Secure Child – Guilford Press. Expected publication February. 2017)