The World is a Circle

A 20-minute scenic drive takes you from Circle of Security International’s office to Freeman High School. Two weeks ago, a 15-year-old boy named Sam was shot and killed by another…

On the top half of the Circle of Security, one of the needs is “Help Me”. To be more accurate, it should actually be “Help me just enough so I…

Our oldest son moved in with us when he was eight years old. He had been in the foster care system for several years and in an neglectful birth home…

One of the characteristics of secure attachment is that a person has a sense that “good things will come their way” (Raising A Secure Child, page 15). Trusting the world…

Parents who struggle with anxiety may end up with children who struggle with anxiety. There is a genetic component that is important to consider when helping your child with their…

To start, let’s look at a transition through the lens of Circle of Security (COS). A child will “come” and “go” from their parent hundreds of times a day. COS…

The other morning, I was sitting on my couch. My 8-month-old was on my lap and my 4-year-old was cuddled in next to us. It’s one of my favorite parts…

If you spend any time at a place there where are children, you will often hear a version of these two words: “you’re okay”. A child falls down: “you’re fine.…

Parents often struggle during transitions - welcome to the club! Transitions require us to “Take Charge” of the child and the situation in a way that allows for the child…

Moving from a place of following your child’s need to taking charge can be a tricky area for parents. Much of our own “stuff” can show up during this time.…