Leaning into Shark Music: A Parent’s Reflection
A mother recently described her experience of recognizing and leaning into the intensity of her Shark Music, choosing security in the midst of both her own and her daughter’s distress.…
The Stories our Shark Music Tells Us
This week, a parent asked me “Are the stories in my head about my parenting and my child Shark Music?”. She went on to share that since becoming a parent,…
Potty Training on the Circle
The Circle of Security teaches parents how to adjust our lens to focus on attachment needs. This was brand new territory for me at first: seeing attachment. I definitely get…
What is the Circle of Security Parenting?
Welcome! Are you a parent/caregiver who feels at times lost without a map? Lost at sea without a lifejacket to help you as you wait for the Coast Guard to…
"If I see that there’s a notification, I’ll feel great! Like I matter."
Diluting the Power of Connection
Recently, I had a very candid conversation with a 17-year-old male about what it’s like to feel lonely and what makes him lonely. He said he doesn’t feel lonely very…
A mother in the kitchen plays with her chilrdren
Parenting is So Inconvenient
One of the parts of parenting that I didn’t anticipate was just how inconvenient it can be. In theory, I knew getting ready in the morning would take longer, scheduling…
The Forever Empty
There is an American comedian who has a skit about “the forever empty”. He talks about how we are all using our cell phones and risking car accidents from texting…
Time Out!
A “Time Out” typically happens when a child is having a big feeling (anger, sadness, frustration) with big behaviors (hitting, screaming, throwing). The parent usually says something like, “go to…
“We Were Wrong, Man”
Somewhere in the world, a Circle of Security Parenting class met recently. There were seven people. Most people had never met before and the class was pretty quiet in the…
I Can’t Be As Overwhelmed As He Is
“I made the biggest parenting mistake of my life this week, I think.” I am a single parent to a 5th grader. My son’s father and I have anxious personalities…
